When being the dependable one becomes a way of life, learning to receive support can feel surprisingly difficult. You are the person who remembers the appointment, notices the shift in someone’s mood, and starts making a backup plan before anyone else realizes there is a...
What therapists, parents, and survivors can learn from the child behind the performer. After writing about what the Michael movie personally awakened in me, I found myself thinking about the many clients who have sat across from me over the years saying some version of:...
There is something I have come to understand after years of sitting with people in therapy, particularly those who have experienced developmental trauma, difficult relationships, and seasons of life that required them to be stronger than they ever should have needed to be. Sometimes, the...
What I wish we talked about more when we talk about cutoffs from parents, no contact with parents, boundaries, trauma, and the complicated space between protecting ourselves and staying connected. There is a conversation happening everywhere right now about adult children going no contact with...